One bride-to-be I met who needed help with her wedding planning hit me with a question that I get asked sometimes; “Can I have a male bridesmaid?” – and I answered, “Of course, you can!”
It doesn’t always mean that a bride always has a female chief attendant. If her best friend is male, then she can definitely have a male bridesmaid. But what is a male bridesmaid called? Read on for answers…
What is the Correct Title for a Male Bridesmaid?
What to call a male bridesmaid? If male bridesmaids, or chief attendants are okay and acceptable, what is the correct name for male bridesmaids, or bridesmen? – Is it Maid of Dishonor? or maybe Bridesdude? Perhaps not…
A male bridesmaid is called Man of Honor – actually the male Maid of Honor. It is like being the best man as well but the difference between the Man of Honor and the Best Man is that, he is chosen by the bride to be her chief attendant and help her through the planning and duration of the wedding. Of course, these days it is indeed possible to have a male close friend that you want to have as your chief attendant for your wedding. Although it’s like breaking traditions, but it is however allowed at weddings.
Is it ok to be a Male Maid of Honor During the Ceremony?
So what about the wedding procession, can you have a male bridesmaid mixed in with the other ladies of the wedding entourage? During the ceremony when bridesmaids and groomsmen walk in pairs, you can always make them walk single-file. This way, they can get good exposure individually.
There is no rule about walking in pairs at a wedding. It is just tradition that usually dictates that – but it is about time to break traditions and give way to male and gay best-friends, as well as brothers of the bride-to-be, let them become men of honor. Want more? We’ve got unique wedding processional ideas to liven up your ceremony.
What about the best man? Check out the best man responsibilities checklist and guide.
“Is it ok to be a male maid of honor? – Yes, no problem! Many girls these days have best friends who are male and it’s normal for them to help the bride-to-be.”
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What is Suitable Male Bridesmaid Attire?
So what does a male bridesmaid, or a man of honor wear during the wedding? – Should you have a male bridesmaid wear a dress with the girls? Of course not – he doesn’t have to wear a dress, unless it’s a Scottish wedding, and then it would be called a kilt anyway! Actually, the man of honor usually dresses like the groomsmen. You can let him wear a tux and have a different boutonniere for him so he can stand out from the others, or you can give him a tie that matches that of the bridesmaids.
Duties of Male Bridesmaid or ‘Man of Honor’
If you are having a man of honor instead of a maid of honor, his duties and responsibilities are the same as that of maid of honor but at some point when there is girly stuff needed, you may want to delegate it to another bridesmaid. Read more about the difference between maid of honor and matron of honor and the duties that are involved.
Of course, the main duty of maid of honor is to host the bridal shower and bachelorette party and in this particular event, the man of honor joins the rest of the guys at the bachelor party and not with the ladies. Although your wedding guests may not be able to tell right away if your man of honor is indeed your man of honor and not the best man, you always have to make sure that your man of honor stays with the bride’s group during pictorials.
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